On what would have been your 50th birthday, I'm thinking of you, as I do everyday, Bret Perry; but you are basking the the radiant glow of Jesus, so that makes all the difference. Still, I am missing you, especially today.
Pictured, Bret Perry, the only brother I ever had, with his nephew and my son, Caleb Perry, at the wedding of Bret's daughter, Karin Kahan 4/17/13.
Bret lost his battle with cancer May 19, 2013.
Seven Years Out
Bret Perry is seven years out. The
phrase “seven years out” means nothing to people who have never suffered from
cancer or had a loved one battle the disease. However, to a cancer survivor the
term means the same as life. Many famous names come to mind as cancer
survivors, such as Christina Applegate, Lance Armstrong, Howie Mandel, Martina
Navratilova, and Mandy Patinkin. Although famous people bring attention to the
subject, close friends or family make it real. To watch a loved one survive
recurring cancer has a major impact on a person.
Bret was first diagnosed with colon
cancer seven years ago. He underwent surgery and rounds of chemotherapy. He
received a good prognosis and thought he had dodged the bullet. At a later
checkup, the cancer had returned but not in his colon. This time the cells were
in his liver.
After numerous treatments of radiation
and chemotherapy, once again the devastating disease seemed to have been
defeated. Bret was weak and understandably changed from having undergone the
ordeal. He lost every hair on his head and a great deal of weight. Nonetheless,
his outlook on life remained positive. He never gave up. His smile stayed real;
his eyes still twinkled with boyish mischief. Bret’s attitude impressed many
people.
Bret appeared to have won another battle.
A few visits to the doctor looked good. Then, the shocker came. Although Bret
had never smoked a cigarette in his life, cancer attacked his lungs. Bret had
another fight to endure. Through it all, he has inspired many.
Health professionals who have treated
him, did not give him until the end of 2011. Bret is still alive. He has held
his three granddaughters, and the last time I saw Bret, it was at an unexpected
family funeral for which he flew in to be a pall bearer. Although no longer an
actual family member, Bret’s embrace of me lingered. No words needed to be
spoken for both of us to say, “I will always love you.”
At the last report, Bret’s cancer had
not left, but it had not grown. Nobody has a clue what caused these various
forms of cancer. Could it be the cadmium he was exposed to for so many years in
working with carbide tools? Could it be something he came in contact with in
his research for Pfizer? There is no answer.
Bret Perry’s face will never appear on
the cover of Time, Newsweek, or Sports
Illustrated as a cancer survivor or an inspiration to millions because he
is not famous. He is merely a friend, a son, a husband, a father, a
grandfather, a brother, a nephew, a grandson, a son-in-law, and an uncle. If
this beast called cancer finally defeats him, he will not be on the national
news. Bret will be an unsung hero. Yet, he has influenced many in at least two
states, his home state of Mississippi and Connecticut, his chosen state of
residence. His optimism and fortitude, his humor and determination, his love
and devotion have warmed hearts and surprised caregivers. Bret Perry is seven
years out.
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